I should probably start off by saying that I have been a waitress before (for a few years), so I know how it is. Also, the state this waitress worked in isn’t one of the states where the waitress gets a buck or two an hour and depends on their tips to pay the bills. The starting pay for waiters and waitress at least in my city, is minimum wage plus any raises they get—in addition to their tips.
The waitress herself was very nice and friendly but she SUCKED. She only had about 10 standard sized tables in her section, no large groups or anything, and wasn’t busy. We had to ask for various things about 4 times (drinks and such), and each item took asking twice to actually get it. I hate having to ask for things twice, it drives me nuts. I understand that it’s possible to get sidetracked and completely forget something, but 4 times…for the same table. Not cool.
We were nice the whole time, used our manners and all that—I always do unless somebody is yelling in my face. Thankfully that doesn’t happen. We never even received one of our items, so I guess that makes it 5 things we had to ask for more than once. She brought us our check and started bussing the table without even asking if we were done or needed anything else (she never asked us the whole time if we ever needed anything).
It’s not a fancy restaurant, but it’s still a nice one. We’ve been there numerous times before and never had a waitress this awful. The only thing that wasn’t her fault was how long the kitchen took to make our food. She apologized to us anyways that it was taking so long; we told her that it was okay and we knew that it wasn’t her fault.
If I had been paying for dinner, I’d have no problem at all not leaving a tip. I know that some people ALWAYS leave a 10-25% tip, but not me. It’s not about being cheap; it’s about tipping based on the server’s performance. When I was a waitress, I worked hard to make sure that each and every one of my customers was happy. If somebody wasn’t happy, I did my best to change that.
Once you pay for your meal, that’s all you’re obligated to do. You don’t have to tip servers, it might be the standard thing to do, but it’s not required. So that’s how I decide on how much to tip servers, but it wasn’t up to me this time. Since I was being treated to dinner, I didn’t feel that it was my right to tell them not to tip her. They knew what a hard time we had, but still left a very generous tip anyways. The first thing that popped into my head was, “great, now she’s going to think she’s doing an awesome job.” I know it sounds bad, but if somebody didn’t leave me a tip—it would get me thinking about what I was doing wrong.
Do you have a certain tipping style or rule?
Have you ever not tipped a server?
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